FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
About Triggers
Below you will find the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the phenomenon of triggers. We answer why you react the way you do, why someone triggers you, and how you change this automatism into a conscious choice.
I.e. catastrophic forecasting, resorting to threats, kitchen sinking, resort to a personal attack, giving the silent treatment or using generalized labeling.
You just had an Amygdala Hijack
The most important step is to be kind to yourself. Your brain and body just went through a temporary emergency.
- Safety & Space (Immediate):
If possible, step away from the situation or person who triggered you. Give yourself a few minutes of quiet space to cool down. - Activate the Prefrontal cortex (Slow Down):
Use your rational mind to regain control of your body's physical systems: - Grounding: Name 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. This pulls your mind out of the emotional past and into the present moment.
- Temperature Shift: Splash cold water on your face or hold an ice cube. This triggers the diving reflex, which instantly slows your heart rate and redirects blood flow from survival mode.
- Wait for the Reboot:
Do not try to analyze the situation or apologize immediately. Wait until your heart rate is completely back to normal (usually 15-30 minutes) before engaging again.
For more information go to the page Triggers.