FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
About Triggers
Below you will find the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the phenomenon of triggers. We answer why you react the way you do, why someone triggers you, and how you change this automatism into a conscious choice.
What does this mean?
Immediate regret is a strong and healthy sign that your actions during the argument did not align with your true values or intentions. This confirms that you were operating on Subconscious Default not from your logical, conscious self (the Pilot).
Think of your brain as a vehicle with two drivers:
- The Subconscious Default (Autopilot): This is the Amygdala and the reactive system. It takes over during a hijack and drives based on old habits and fear. It prioritizes speed over accuracy.
- The Conscious Pilot: This is your Prefrontal Cortex, which uses logic, empathy, and your true values.
The moment you feel regret is the moment the Conscious Pilot wakes up and assesses the damage done by the Autopilot. Regret is proof that your action and your conscious intention did not align.
The take-away: Your regret is a good thing! It means the rational part of your brain is functional and trying to correct the emotional overreaction. This feeling is your first step toward changing the default setting.
For more information go to the page Triggers.
I.e. catastrophic forecasting, resorting to threats, kitchen sinking, resort to a personal attack, giving the silent treatment or using generalized labeling.