FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

About Triggers

Below you will find the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the phenomenon of triggers. We answer why you react the way you do, why someone triggers you, and how you change this automatism into a conscious choice.

I feel like I lose control in a split second.

I need a way to hit the brakes in the moment.

It feels like the topic changes, but the fight is always identical.

When my partner is already triggered...

I.e. catastrophic forecasting, resorting to threats, kitchen sinking, resort to a personal attack, giving the silent treatment or using generalized labeling.

How can I prevent Amygdala Hijacks from happening as much as possible ?

Prevention is about making your Amygdala less sensitive and increasing the resilience of your rational brain.

  • Strengthen the Prefrontal Cortex (Meditation/Mindfulness): Regular practice helps you observe your emotional surges without reacting to them, strengthening the neural connection between your senses and your rational brain.
  • Identify and Defuse Triggers: Keep a brief journal after any intense reaction. Note the specific words, tones, or situations that caused the reaction. Once you identify a pattern, you can consciously label the stimulus as "safe" before the Amygdala fires the alarm. Understanding your triggers is the first step to managing them.
  • Manage Baseline Stress: An exhausted brain leads to a hair-trigger Amygdala. Prioritizing sleep, nutrition, exercise, and social connection effectively "lowers the volume" on your alarm system so it takes more effort to set it off.

For more information go to the page Triggers.