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Below you will find the answers to the most frequently asked questions about the phenomenon of triggers. We answer why you react the way you do, why someone triggers you, and how you change this automatism into a conscious choice.

Why do I get angry so fast over nothing?

I feel like I lose control in a split second.

How do I stop overreacting and yelling in an argument?

I need a way to hit the brakes in the moment.

I immediately regret things after a fight.

What does this mean?

Why do we always have the same fight about the dishes/money/time?

It feels like the topic changes, but the fight is always identical.

What should I do when my partner won't listen or ignores me?

How do I prevent an argument from escalating instantly?

When my partner is already triggered...

My mind goes blank and I can't talk during a fight.

What is this?

I shut down from my partner during conflict.

Is this bad?

How can I set boundaries without being afraid of a fight?

Or sounding threatening?

I overreacted. How do I solve the underlying problem and repair the situation?

I.e. catastrophic forecasting, resorting to threats, kitchen sinking, resort to a personal attack, giving the silent treatment or using generalized labeling.

I am very triggered.. What should I do right now to calm my system and recover?

You just had an Amygdala Hijack

What happens in your body when you are triggered?

What is the Amygdala Hijack?

How can I prevent being triggered so often?

How can I prevent Amygdala Hijacks from happening as much as possible ?

What is Amygdala Hijacking?

What are the three universal core needs that cause triggers?

What is the 'Pilot Protocol' for stopping overreacting?

The Pilot Protocol shifts control from the Amygdala to the Prefrontal Cortex. It starts with the Internal Audit ('Create the Pause'), followed by the Intellectual Detour (naming the Receptor instead of launching an attack). This breaks the automatic trigger circuit

What is the difference between being Resilient and being Integrated?